My boss keeps referring to me as “neurodivergent” and I really don’t like that

ETA - my boss was AFAB, but uses “they/them” pronouns

I have a new boss who recently joined the organization. They are serving as a director after the person who served in that position was promoted to SVP of the department. I’ll refer to the new boss as “D” and previous/promoted boss as “SVP.”

I worked really well with SVP for nearly two years, and the department gained so much strength in that time. I’ve been in the organization for 3 years.

The new D joined in January, and at first I liked their vibe, but I’m finding that I’m more emotionally reactive now, on top of struggling more. I even had a serious meeting with SVP and D about my work performance. While a lot of the feedback was deserved, D didn’t provide important context to one of the stories involving my performance.

I have a lot of weird experiences that have taken place since they started, but one thing in particular that irks me is that they call me neurodivergent. They’ll say things like, “you and I are neurodivergent, I get it.” Or something similar that’s meant to be comforting. But I find it weird.

Sure, I’m on the neurodivergent spectrum, I struggle with anxiety and depression, but I don’t ever use the term neurodivergent for myself because I don’t like the term.

But on multiple occasions they’ve called me neurodivergent. I suppose I could be a grownup and tell them to stop, but idk. I told SVP about this last week, and she said that wasn’t ok.

I’m not really sure what to do in this situation. It’s almost like the worse I perform, the more anxious I get, making it harder to perform.

I suppose I don’t have a question - but thoughts?