Engineers who changed from a non-tech career...

This isn't a women-only issue, but I know a lot more women in this boat so I was interested in people's perspective here.

After years of working in marketing and user research, I became a software dev about 8 years ago but only recently found myself on what I'd call a true engineering team - 100% back end, infra heavy, nothing user facing, working on what (to me) seem like trivial problems in code that have little connection to business use cases, high level strategy, etc. Team is all men, none of whom have ever worked outside of tech. They all find a lot of enjoyment in this kind of work, I do not, but for various reasons, am stuck with this team for at least 6 months.

I'm really struggling with communication and work style, as there is a tendency for my team to be hyper literal and very down in the details and unable to pull back up to a high level and answer questions / provide context in an organized way. Often when I finally figure out what we're doing for some task, I realize that the problem itself is far, far more straightforward than the (hours long, chaotic) conversation led me to believe. There's been nothing so far that has made me think I have massive gaps in my own technical knowledge or skills, which was my original fear. It really seems like this is about information sharing & processing vs actual knowledge.

My guess is there's a massive difference in style of education, training, and career history - they've learned to think bottom up, I've learned to think top down. And I get the sense they have not had the same pressure that I have had to "meet people where they are" and break ideas down into digestible concepts, but have been rewarded for "sounding smart" and getting deeply technical off the bat.

Anyway, has anyone had success in bridging this kind of gap?