Pap Smear Embarassment

I went to my doctor and was due for my pap, but we ended up deciding to try again next year cuz the speculum just wasn’t going in and she didn’t want to cause me unnecessary pain. which i of course appreciate, but im embarrassed cuz i feel like it’s cuz i’m not sexually active. ive only ever been with one person sexually before and that was years ago. can someone please make me feel less self conscious about this interaction? :/