28F dating 30M virgin

I 28F recently started dating a very sweet guy 30M. We click very well, gave the same sense of humor and he’s very affectionate and is very clear with his intentions. There are things I have noticed which I find a little odd, but not at all deal breaking. He’s not a very good kisser, although he has already improved significantly since our first. He’s extremely cuddly, as in touching me all the time (and I mean all the time), kissing my cheek, my forehead, etc. none of these are bad things, maybe I’m just not used to it? We haven’t had sex yet, due to me wanting to get to know him first and then I got my period. As we were laying in bed last night, we had a heated make out session, a bit of dryhumping and when I had to stop it, I asked him if he had any kinks or anything he likes in bed. He very hesitantly tells me that he’s never had a girlfriend and that he’s actually a virgin. I was baffled! He proceeds to tell me that even though he wants to have sex, he only wants it with someone he has a connection with, and such a woman has just never appeared to him.

What I do next is that I start touching him both for him, but also because I’m curious as to how he reacts to it. He reacts very well, BUT here’s the thing. He wasn’t fully hard. Like it was hard, but also soft. I’m thinking that he was very much in his head. He said he was nervous, so maybe that’s the reason?

I need some advice from both men and women here. I am flushed with doubts because I actually feel big pressure to give him a good first time, but at the same time, I have some needs that I need fulfilled and what if he’s too much in his head to meet my needs?

So am I now overthinking the entire thing? Are some men’s penises just not able to ever be fully hard? Help!