BF (ex?) says I’m not meeting his need emotionally (39+4 today)

39+4 weeks pregnant.

LDR, accidental pregnancy. I knew I wanted to keep it from the second I saw the positive pregnancy test, BF was mad I made the decision without him (I didn’t even feel like it was a decision, it was my baby I wanted him from the minute I knew he existed).

I’ve been off work for 6 weeks already because I could barely walk with pelvic girdle pain, and that’s only gotten worse since baby has dropped to the point I’m basically bedbound the last week. I’m being monitored closely for preeclampsia because I’ve been having really bad headaches, and I have awful carpal tunnel in both wrists so I’m barely able to use my hands. This is also after a really rough 1st trimester where I was off work for nearly 2 months because of morning sickness and fatigue.

BF hasn’t checked in on me or baby once the last month, has been talking days to respond to my messages sometimes, and last time he was over visiting he was rude and passive aggressive to me to the point where my brother asked me was I okay. When I pulled him on it this week he’s told me he “can’t do this anymore” and “I’m not meeting his need emotionally”.

This has been an ongoing theme the whole pregnancy, at the beginning if I took more than a few hours to respond it was issue, I felt the whole 1st trimester was more about his feelings than how ill I was or how I felt. He’s always leaned really heavily on me emotionally because he says he doesn’t have anyone else to talk to, but I haven’t been able to be there for him the same level after I got pregnant, a) because I’m exhausted and in pain, and b) because my priorities have shifted and I can’t keep pouring all of myself into him. I kept trying to make it work but obviously it’s not working, but he’s decided to tell me over text the week our son is due?

I left it a few days and then tried to reach out to his mother, more so she would check in on him because I don’t think that not checking in on your son or the mother of your child for over a month is normal behaviour, and I’ve just gotten an essay back that basically sums up to “I raised my sons right you’re just being hormonal and crazy”.

So thats where I’m at. Am I being hormonal and crazy? To be honest I think I’m feeling more relief than anything else but his mum’s reaction has made me question myself.