Called a terrible parent by PA

No advice or anything wanted. Just wanted to share that when I asked my PA to speak more kindly to our son he told me that he doesn't want to raise our child to be "soft" and a "soyboy". He then told me I am a failure as a parent. All because I use a gentle approach to parenting. I know I don't deserve this and this needs to stop. For now, I just wanted to share my sadness.