Curious as to what other people’s experiences with intimacy have been like in Japan? Please remove if this is not a subject that can be discussed 🙏

So I currently live in Toyama and I’ve found that many of my experiences with Japanese men have been painfully awkward or just downright bad. I am attracted to men and women but my sister is the only one between the two of us that has had intimate/sexual experiences with Japanese women. I did used to have a girlfriend my first time around in Japan and the intimacy was normal for lack of a better word, but she was Chinese and had only lived in Japan for 5 months at the time (grew up around different cultural values relating to sex and romance). My last two sexual experiences with Japanese men have been between bad and downright atrocious (I can elaborate but I don’t want to break any rules). I imagine the cultural and language barriers contribute to this but even outside of sex or romance I just feel like Japanese men do not have game, most times they try to flirt with me or make a move it’s extremely direct. No saucy tension or anything. They touch me without asking or say “I love you” or ask to hug me and then try to kiss me without warning. All of my sisters experiences with women have been much less awkward. Why are relations with women (specifically lesbians, can’t speak for heterosexual Japanese women) so much smoother?