People who get hit on a lot, HOW?

I was recently out with a friend of mine who is in a great relationship. And of course, he gets asked out multiple times at the bar. Granted, he is a good-looking guy but nothing out of this world, so I'm not surprised, but he mentioned he's never been on dating apps.

I'd say I am cute, confident, outgoing, kind, etc. Yet, I have only been approached out in the wild once. I am really trying to focus on dating this year and teaching myself to be more approachable. But, what's the secret? Also, how do you choose who to flirt with? How can I be more of a magnet if I WANT to be approached by men for my number? Once we are talking, how do I give signals that I want the person to ask for it?

I feel like a child asking these questions but I'm 32...