melissa saying her adult kids need her

melissa uploaded a youtube video, and around 18:28 she says that her kids need her more now than they did when they were younger. she even mentions that she lives in LA, despite having a beautiful home in pennsylvania, because "maddie and kenzie need her". while i understand the dynamic was different when the kids were younger, it seems like she’s very much coddling them, to the point where they’re not fully independent, even though they’re almost 21 and 23 years old.

i get that a mom never stops being a mom, but it seems like she’s helping them every day, tending to a lot of their needs. for example, kenzie literally abandoned her dog for her mom to take care of. it feels like melissa might be enabling this behavior, as though she’s fostering a dependence rather than encouraging them to handle things on their own. the fact that she stays in LA solely because of her kids is unusual - most parents of grown children don’t base where they live depending on where their kids are, just so they can take care of them. thoughts?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RndGwy94q20