how do i get comfortable to face transgender people

i know this sounds like really ill willed, but i promise it isnt. i say this because i myself am transgender (unfortunately) and i have a hard time confronting people that are transgender (especially mtf) because they all have qualities that i dont. they believe in theirselves, they are on hrt, they look femminine, they always have one of those qualities and i have none of those. just, how can i be happy? how can i learn to accept “im ugly and i dont pass but im still a woman” despite not having any female traits? EDIT: how can i get comfortable accepting people have it better then me?