being stalked while aroace..

CW: stalking, trauma

i'm dealing with a long term stalker who basically will take any boundaries or things that i share about myself and seemingly morph themselves into it, so that they then have a pretext to circumvent those boundaries..

i came out to them about my orientation bc their fixation was too extreme and suddenly they claimed to share the same orientation. maybe it's true, maybe it's not. but their behavior is more than dangerous.

i've been giving legal warnings for too long and need to follow through. but the legal advocate at my local shelter told me i'm less protected under the law bc our relationship doesn't fall under certain definitions and it's honestly so ridiculous that i start dissociating half way through the explanation—which is bad, but...

Anyways, has anyone else dealt with this kind of thing? Do you find it worse when your stalker is the same orientation or better?

edit : just to be clear. my frustration is with the systemic barriers in my area. I'm not entitled to the same legal protection as a 'romantic/sexual relationship', despite it mimicking one in every way except label..

edit 2:

i've been explaning my experience with coercive control bc misunderstandings about what long term stalking is: how it manifests, they dynamics that keep it in place, how words and information like orientaiton and other details aren't valuable or meaningful in and of themselves but rather as fodder for the stalker to control the narrative — all of this is important, but little understood information.

it's information that even if you cognitively understand, can still be weaponized against you. but it's really hard to explain over and over again. it feels symbolically similar to having to explain my situation over and over to my legal council, hotlines, shelter advocates, friends, family, partners, and ultimately my stalker themselves...

so i won't do it anymore. i appreciate the support, but this isn't a simple issue, and i made a post bc i dont think its talked about enough. many of us suffer without knowing why. so if it applies to your life, it does. if it doesn't it doesn't and that's ok.