The “Your Dating Standards Are Too High” Myth We Are Telling Women
In general, a woman in the States doesn’t need a man to survive. Women can work, open bank accounts and invest, purchase property, take care of the kids, and get medical help, all without needing assistance or guidance from their male partners.
At the same time, countless studies and questionnaires have identified that single childless women are the happiest demographic.
Additionally, women tend to have stronger bonds with more friends, and their sense of community is often stronger than that of their male counterparts. This means that if a woman gets sick, laid off, or is simply stressed over something in her life, she’s much more likely to get mental support than a man.
As you can imagine, men find this trend problematic. Someone who can’t rely on a strong network of friends, and was raised with a mentality that women will be fighting for them, and take care of all the mental load and the majority of household chores, would obviously not be happy that they’re no longer a hot commodity.
I am the table: why women should have high dating standards
Since the beginning of time, women are expected to be humble and humbled by force. Thanks to feminism and the natural evolution of society, there’s been a lot of progress in that area over the past decades. Still, there is a long way to go, and keeping your dating standards high is a less obvious way for women to fight for their rights, equality, and fair treatment.
On top of that, many women provide far more emotional support than they receive, and they’re expected to make compromises and sacrifices, while men aren’t.
Men aren’t just competing with other men anymore. They are competing with the inner peace, comfort, and happy life that women manage to build for themselves.
I see men asking where women have gone, angry about women de-centering men, angry that women have centered their own happiness and are no longer sacrificing their own own health and happiness for men. There is no award for being long suffering unless you count a lifetime ailment as an award. They have main character syndrome, poor listening skills and an innate inability to see women as human. Why would a woman invest their time and attention in men?
All of the backlash we are seeing proves women opting out is working, for women, We share our stories, learn to value all that we are and learn to exit anything that does not meet our needs, without wasting our own time and breath. You don't need to solve the mystery of the man, why he is hot and cold, why he disappears, why he is not planning a date... Save your breath, men know what they are doing. Are you looking for a date or are you coaching/teaching men? Even if he is not conscious of his mal patterns are you going to invest your unpaid labor/time into this man? What is your benefit? He is not going to wake up one day and think what a great person you have been, he is not going to appreciate all of your sacrifice, it is all expected of women. If I don't feel it to my bones that I am seen, heard and valued why would I invest any of my time and energy in this man?
When dating keep your standards high and your expectation low, it really is the only sane way to date.
Cheers!