It’s okay to reject someone because you’re uncomfortable with them having a high body count

As long as it’s not for misogynistic reasons and you’re not a hypocrite.

It’s ok if it’s because you’re insecure. No one gets mad about people’s other insecurities. Insecurity is a personal matter, not something that others should get mad about

It’s ok if it’s a difference in values. If you view sex as incredibly intimate, it’s hard to date someone who views it as a casual act. One mindset isn’t better than the other, but it’s ok to want someone else wig the same one

It’s ok to not make exceptions for people who changed their mindset after or have a reason it’s high. It’s ok to change your mindset, I’m sure someone who has a similar past will have also changed as well and you may be more compatible, or someone else may just not care.

There’s definitely nuance, but it’s up to the individual to determine. Like if you’re 35 a high body count is much higher than a high body count at 20. If you still want someone who’s slept either fewer than 5 people in your thirties it’ll be harder obviously, but if they care that much that’s still ok! I’m sure they know it’ll be harder