UPDATE: i got exactly what i wanted!

source: https://www.reddit.com/r/StraightTransGirls/s/bJxkQfmAHI

he found the post lol

he apologized for everything, tried to add context to the situation, but still owned the fault and addressed everything regarding my feelings and his shortcomings- which is honestly huge for me because seldom has a man (or men in general) done this after finding out they hurt someone.

the hatchet has been buried i guess

but yeah! i got the closure i needed, further proving my method of madness is justified and works perfectly😊😊