UPDATE: i got exactly what i wanted!
source: https://www.reddit.com/r/StraightTransGirls/s/bJxkQfmAHI
he found the post lol
he apologized for everything, tried to add context to the situation, but still owned the fault and addressed everything regarding my feelings and his shortcomings- which is honestly huge for me because seldom has a man (or men in general) done this after finding out they hurt someone.
the hatchet has been buried i guess
but yeah! i got the closure i needed, further proving my method of madness is justified and works perfectly😊😊