Struggling with Religious Control in Marriage

I’m a 25-year-old woman, and I’ve been married for a year to my husband (31). While I expected religion to play a role in our marriage, I didn’t anticipate the extent to which he would impose control over my choices—especially regarding how I dress and present myself.

I understand the importance of modesty in Islam, and I’ve always practiced my faith in a way that feels right to me. However, his approach feels more like control than guidance, affecting not just my wardrobe but also how I carry myself in daily life. It’s starting to impact my sense of self, and I’m struggling to navigate this dynamic while staying true to both my faith and my own identity.

I’d love to hear from others who have been in similar situations. How do you find balance in a marriage where religious expectations feel more like restrictions? How do you communicate boundaries while still respecting your partner’s perspective? Also I’ve communicated in a year multiple multiple times it hasn’t helped.

Any advice or insights would mean a lot.

We also have general incompatibility in terms of this and other things and I want to leave