I am ashamed of some people here

Stop checking if you're on the blacklist, or if your ex is online. This is breaking the no-contact rule. You’re supposed to stay in the unknown zone until you truly don’t care anymore. That’s the whole point.

I can’t believe I have to start my victory post with this negativity, but here we are. Even someone like me—a total creep who came dangerously close to being a stalker—managed to heal. It took 9 months, but I did it. For context, I usually can’t move on for years.

So please, do the no-contact rule the right way. No creeping, no peeking. Stick with it, and you’ll win your own victory. If I can do it, you can too.

UPD: Yooo, WTF. Did I accidentally post in excheckcontact instead of exnocontact? My bad, I thought this was a forum about moving on, not about justifying why you’re still checking on your ex’s new relationship