Manually Stimulation?

Listen, not trying to be crude here. However, I’m on my own journey, too. I’m a married woman and I do not orgasm frequently. Maybe 1-3 times a month. When I orgasm, it’s from pure penetration and nothing else. After doing some research in the women’s health forum, it’s been impressed upon me that I need to add clit stimulation. Women are saying when they add clit stimulation, they orgasm every single time. I can’t even imagine how amazing my life (and mental attitude towards sex) would be if I orgasmed every time I had sex. So, my question is, is this true? And, sorry to be super invasive here, but how do you manually stimulate your clit…? Sorry, I come from a purity culture background.

But everything in my relationship is very healthy and I’m healthy and not on any medication so there’s zero reason as to why I’m not orgasming. I’ve been told I need to take more ownership here and the clit stimulation is what needs to happen.