is it wrong to date when you have bpd?

as the title says, is it wrong to date when you have bpd? i feel like i am tearing my boyfriend apart with my episodes and short temper and extreme emotions. i love this boy so much so should i set him free of the misery that is me. when i get close to people i end up giving them some of my misery, i would never want my boyfriend to feel the way i do but ive already made such a negative impact on his mental health. i dont know if i could survive without him but its not fair for me to break him just because im broken. i feel like i should just be locked away by myself so i can never hurt anyone ever again, im so shitty man wtf is wrong with me