My husband has some abusive tendencies, including threatening physical violence.

I said something to him about it, and he asked for a divorce, and said, "I can't be around you people. You think I'm some horrible fuckin monster".

We don't think that, though. We think he's a human with anger issues who needs to find healthier ways to cope.

How do I get him to see that we don't think he's a monster, we just don't wanna be yelled at and threatened?